You Can Do It

When I help people figure out what they want out of relationships and life in general a common theme arises time after time: that every movement in our lives starts with us. This seems like a basic concept but it can have profound implications. We can choose to move in a different direction at any time but we have to start. If you want to try out this concept try this:

1. Think of something you want to achieve in your life.
2. Think of one thing you can do today to achieve your goal.
3. Take action and do it.
4. Praise yourself for actions you complete.
5. Ask yourself, "What did I learn about myself?"
6. Repeat.

People just like you create amazing change in their lives by taking action. It's incredible how much control we have over our lives if we consciously do things to change it.

Take care,

Guy
Life Coach Reno

Relationship Advice to Help You Fix a Problem

A lot of us prefer to try to fix our relationship problems on our own rather than ask for help. We may ask for advice from friends or family but with limited success. After all, people can only give us advice based on what they know and many people, though well meaning, do not know how to fix a relationship problem. We may end up not asking for help at all because we have been taught that we should take care of things ourselves or we don't get useful advice.

The good news is that there are resources available to you to fix relationship problems. The stigma associated with looking for outside help is going away and people are more open to getting help from an impartial, outside person. The benefit of getting outside help is that the person does not have any interest in the outcome other than helping you find solutions that work for you. Therapy is an excellent way to work out issues but there are also alternatives such as coaching when you don't require mental health related services. I always recommend that if people have a mental health issue they benefit from seeing mental health professionals. For issues related to our functioning in relationships a coach can often be helpful.

When I coach people we don't go into mental health issues or dwell in the past. It is not because these things aren't important but rather because coaching deals with the here and now and what you can do to improve it in the future. I literally help you change the way you do things now and do them in a way that works for you. You make all the decisions with guidance and support.

I work with people to help them figure out a new way of doing things. Coaching is helpful for people who just need a supportive outside person who can motivate them to move in the direction they choose. It's like having a friend listen to you who is actually qualified to help you resolve your problems.

If you have been looking for a way to deal with relationship issues or problems perhaps coaching is a good option for you. A coach helps you get what you want out of your relationships by clearing away that obstacles and helping you design your new path to happiness. Feel free to contact me at the link below if you have any questions about how coaching can help you transform your relationships.

Have a great relationship day,

Guy
Life Coach in Reno

Conflict Resolution

People often ask me how to resolve conflicts. Many people think that letting conflict build up, followed by an explosion, followed by another build-up period is the natural cycle of conflict. The only difficulty with this approach is that the conflict continues and doesn't get resolved. The only real solution is to fix the conflict by taking action. Follow the following steps to begin working on resolving rather than perpetuating conflict.

1. Each person identifies what the they think the conflict is.
2. Both people agree together on one definition of the conflict to begin resolving.
3. Each person comes up with two or three possible solutions.
4. Both people agree together on which solution to implement.
5. If the parties can't work together find a mediator.

Resolving conflict is about working with the other person to actually fix the situation. The act of doing all the previous steps (always in order) allows us the chance to work with the other person rather than against them. Make sure you start at the first step and do not progress to the next if you haven't finished the previous step. We are conditioned to rush to solutions but frequently forget that it the working through the issue that gets us the most permanent and satisfactory results.

Have a conflict-fixing day,

Guy
Life Coach Reno

Fighting With Family

When it comes to family, conflict can be especially painful. My clients often ask me what to do about a family member who they can't get along with. It can be tricky to deal with family because there are often rules we are expected to follow in our families.

We feel a sense of duty toward family but that doesn't give people some free pass to hurt each other. Ideally we treat everyone with the same dignity and respect whether they are family or not.

Here's a couple of things to think about:

1. Respect your needs and beliefs first.
2. Inform your family about what you want. Set limits and boundaries.
3. Inform your family you are available to work things out.
4. Work with them to resolve the conflict.
5. Set the example for how you want to be treated.
6. Take some time away if things get heated.
7. Expect resistance.

You are your own unique person regardless of what your family says. It's ultimately healthiest to pay attention to the things that bring you joy and happiness than to try to mold yourself into someone else's vision. Trust yourself and teach your family who you are. Do it with kindness and patience and eventually they will understand who you are.

Take care,

Guy
Life Coach Reno

Baby Boomers and Retirement

So you're a baby boomer and you are contemplating retirement. I help
baby boomers figure out what they want to do with the rest of their
lives. Retirement can be both exciting and challenging time in our
lives. Baby boomers are in a position to do some great things with the
remainder of their lives. Retirement is no longer a call to retire in
Florida for the boomers. The baby boom generation has much to give and
a new vision of what retirement means.

The
key to retirement is to make it rewarding for you. Ask yourself the
following questions to figure out what you want to do with the rest of
your life.

Will I continue working?
What is my passion in life and am I pursuing it?
What unresolved issues do I need to fix in my life?
How is my relationship with those I love?
What are my skills and talents?
What will I do with the rest of my life.
What brings me great joy and am I doing that?

Take
a moment to think about who you really are as a person and what you
want to purposefully do with your life. When I coach people, I help them
clarify what they want out of life and plan for the future. I'm always
amazed at the wonderful things that people can do when they follow
their dreams.

As you think about retirement try to include
things you love and that have great meaning to you. Retirement can be a
wonderful time to show the world who you are and leave your mark as the
great person you are.

Have a purposeful day,

Guy
Life Coach in Reno

What do You Want to Do with Your Life?

Many of us are searching for what we want to do with our lives. I frequently recommend to my clients that they do things that bring them joy and that really speak to who they are as a person. A quick checklist you can use to figure out if you are doing what you love could include:

What do I love doing more than anything? Am I doing it?
What am I doing to pursue my dreams?
Am I settling for a life that does not include my dreams?
What am I afraid of?
What can I do today to move toward my dreams?

Moving one's life in the direction we want it to go in requires conscious thought. The good news is that anyone can do concrete things to move in any direction they want. Start today and you could be on your way to doing the things you've dreamed of.

Have a purpose filled day,

Guy
Life Coach Reno