How to Keep Your New Year's Resolutions

Many people make resolutions at the beginning of the new year and have difficulty keeping up the momentum and enthusiasm they initially experience. So how can we make sure we fulfill our new year's resolutions? Here are some helpful hints to get you started.

1. Pick a manageable goal. You can always pick another if you achieve one.
2. Pick only one thing you want to change. Don't try to do everything at once.
3. Pick a goal that you are very likely to follow through on. This leads to success.
4. Find an outside person to help you reinforce your goal.
5. Develop a plan and stick to it.
6. Take one step then keep walking.
7. Practice, practice, practice. The act of doing things over time creates change.

May you have a successful and fulfilling new year,

Guy
Life Coach Reno

The Secret to The Secret

There are many ways to help yourself get what you want out of life. People benefit profoundly from their mindset and the actions they take. The Secret is a popular book that talks about attracting what you want in life by what you put out. They call it the Law of Attraction. Here are some basic things you can do to start this type of process at any time.

1. Think of the thing you want.
2. Think of three things you can do to achieve that goal.
3. Pick one thing to take action on and start doing it today.
4. Check in with yourself to see how you're progressing.
5. When you've finished one goal, move on to the next.

The purposeful act of choosing to do something and then following through literally trains your mind to take on challenges. When you achieve any goal it opens up great possibilities because you begin to understand that you really can impact your life in significant ways.

I help people transform their lives every day and each one of them starts with a desire to accomplish something. The key to success is going from the abstract thought phase to actually taking action and doing something. Try these steps today on any goal you want to achieve and follow through until you achieve success. Along the way you will be practicing how to be a successful person.

Have a successful day,

Guy
Life Coach Reno

Dating Problems

A lot of people ask me why they keep dating frogs. Others revel in the rush from dating bad boys or girls but end up hurt. Many lament not being able to find Mr. or Mrs. right. What I've found out over the years is that people date haphazardly. They have some vague notion of what they want but they are missing a few key elements that will help them date at a deeper, more rewarding level. Next time you are feeling troubled by your dating life think of the following ideas.

1. Am I happy with myself or am I looking for someone to fill that void?
2. Am I doing what I want with my life?
3. Do I date negative people because, deep down, I don't like myself?
4. Do I know how to meet positive, supportive people to date?
5. Am I meeting people that make me feel good about myself?
6. Do I have the communication and interpersonal skills to date well?
7. Why do I date?

As you think of answers to these questions you will begin to understand yourself more and identify the patterns that have led you to relationship problems. If you keep repeating the same behaviors you will likely get the same results. It's only when we begin to understand ourselves and treat ourselves well that we can begin letting great people into our lives.

Happy dating,

Guy
Life Coach Reno

Loving Yourself

Do you know someone who loudly proclaims that they respect and love themselves and then get trampled mercilessly by every person who comes into their lives? Do you know someone who constantly agonizes with heartache but never seems to put it behind them? Many of us navigate the waters of relationships focusing almost entirely on the other person’s needs. We invest prodigious amounts of time and energy into making someone else happy or worrying about how they’re doing while ignoring the most important person in the room, us. Why is it we go through such elaborate planning to mold our lives around someone else only to find ourselves losing our self-identity and wishing for better relationships?

Somewhere along the way we lose sight of the importance of caring for ourselves. Taking care of ourselves first is a critically important step in creating fulfilling relationships in our lives but we don’t do it consistently. We benefit from tending to our own needs first so we can be in great shape to attract positive, vibrant people into our lives and share great relationships. So how do we do that? The good news is that there are many straightforward things we can do, starting today, to take care of ourselves and begin the process of respecting and loving ourselves. We can consciously become healthy and happy by learning what respect is. Take some time to find out what your needs are.

Take care,

Guy
Life Coach Reno

Respect: How to Get It

Respect is a word that gets thrown around a lot but that we don’t always define clearly. This leaves everyone guessing and doing different things that may or may not lead to respectful relationships. We sometimes ask for respect from others or we strive hard to be respectful in our relationships but we don’t always ask for it for ourselves. We may find ourselves in relationships where we give all the respect in the world and get little or none in return. So what creates this uncertain, rocky landscape when it comes to respect? It may be caused because everyone defines respect in a different way. The important thing is for you to define it in a way that works for you and that you can clearly communicate to others. We often do not receive respect because we do not tell people what we need and we don’t take action to educate them. We essentially give other people the power to treat us negatively and not respect us. These patterns keep repeating because we don’t know what else to do. As we begin our journey toward asking for respect it is helpful to define the term. In romance and relationships, respect may be defined as someone allowing us be who we are, to help us and encourage us to grow, to share our triumphs and disappointments, to listen to us and to make us feel great. So how do we find this elusive thing called respect?

A logical starting point in the quest to respect ourselves is figuring out what we want out of our relationships and how we want to be treated. If we don’t know what we want, then how can we expect others to fulfill our wishes? Think in terms of defining who you are as a person and what is important to you. The second step toward honoring ourselves is to ask for respect from others. This is accomplished by asking the significant people in our lives for what we need. It’s our job to educate others about how we would like to be treated. As you’ve probably noticed, people aren’t mind readers – we have to tell them what we want. Many of us believe that people will just automatically understand how to respect us but, for the most part, people treat us exactly like we show them how to. We get results based on what we put out. If you act like a doormat you will attract people who will treat you like one. If you act healthy and balanced you will attract that kind of people.

Have a self-respecting day,

Guy
Life Coach Reno

Do You Feel Insecure?

We sometimes feel insecure about ourselves and wonder if people are judging us or perhaps don't like us. Insecurity is not about other people, it's about us. When we feel insecure we are looking at the world through our fears. Some helpful things to think about when we're feeling insecure are:

What difference does it make what that person thinks of me?
Nobody anybody says can affect us unless we let it.
Insecurity goes away when we practice doing things and get better at them.
Take a moment to take it easy on yourself.
There are great things about you that you can feel secure about right now.

It's a good idea to focus on things you feel secure about and to practice those you don't feel secure about. Practice helps you build confidence and competence. Next time you feel insecure ask yourself, "Why am I doing this?" and move on to either trying to something differently. Only you have the power to get rid of insecurity.

Have a secure day,

Guy
Life Coach Reno

Are You Ready to Take Action?

Many people get closer to their dreams by taking action. When you purposefully decide to move in a certain direction you begin a journey that will take you in directions you may not even have imagined. Here's what some wise people have to say about the subject.

Anais Nin:

Dreams pass into the reality of action. From the actions stems the dream again; and this interdependence produces the highest form of living.

Anatole France:

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.

Alfred North Whitehead:

We cannot think first and act afterward. From the moment of birth we are immersed in action, and can only fitfully guide it by taking thought.

Have an action-filled day,

Guy
Life Coach Reno