Smart Dating

We often date based on initial impressions, the rush of excitement that comes from falling in love with someone or being physically attracted to someone. Then we end up wondering why we fall into that trap over and over. One answer that works for people looking to date for quality and excitement is to date smart. Smart dating is when we pick people based on feeling great about ourselves and making smart choices. Here are some tips that will help you date more effectively.

1. Get as healthy as possible. People that feel great about themselves make much better dating choices than those who simply bounce around feeling poorly and selecting partners based on low expectations.

2. Treat yourself well. You deserve to be treated genuinely well. This means someone who lets you be you, who doesn't control you, who builds up your self-esteem and who supports you unconditionally.

3. Try to pace yourself. Excitement is great but it can lead you to do things you may not feel that great about later. Try to jumping into dating because you don't feel great alone.

4. Ask yourself, "In what ways does this person make me feel great about myself?"

5. Get objective outside help to assist you in learning more about yourself and how to date well. People who know you may mean well but they aren't always dating experts.

Take care,

Guy
Life Coach Reno

You Don't Have to Be Perfect

I often work with clients who set a goal and then throw all this other stuff on top of it and paralyze themselves before doing anything. They often tell me that they are afraid of doing something imperfect; afraid of messing up.

The idea that we mess up comes from many places, very often our family. The truth is that we only mess up if we choose to describe it that way. The next time you set a goal for yourself try focusing less on the whole "I'm doing something wrong and what if I fail," outlook and set yourself up for success. Try the following ideas:

1. Set an achievable goal you know you can do.
2. Do one thing at a time and don't burden yourself with extra things.
3. Celebrate when you complete a task, do something to treat yourself well.

We only fail if we set ourselves up for failure or listen to the negative messages inside our head. Success comes from setting realistic goals, completing them and moving forward purposefully. One last thing...you absolutely do not have to be perfect.

Take care,

Guy
Life Coach Reno

Are You Balanced?

I was talking to a very accomplished person today who felt overwhelmed by everything going on in his life. Upon examination he realized that he had been juggling a great deal of different things and hadn't taken time to think about the things that gave him balance.

We become so engrossed in living life at a rapid pace that we forget that we can enjoy things better if we pause occasionally to relax, recharge and reflect. Take some time in your day to not do anything. Look at a sunset, sit by a stream, go walking in the city with no particular goal. Life becomes more enjoyable when we take time to regain our balance.

Balance helps us maintain a generally positive course. It is the middle road we take that grounds us. We will always have highs and lows but, if we nurture the middle, we will always have it to seek refuge in.

Take care,

Guy
Life Coach Reno