Many people go through life hanging on to trauma from the past. It seems paradoxical but it is greatly beneficial to try to heal past challenges before moving forward in life. When we heal the past we erase all the garbled stuff that clogs up our psyche. It gives us a chance to hit the reset button and do whatever we want with the rest of your life.
I am not recommending that you wallow in self-pity or live a life of despair. We benefit from acknowledging the past and then moving forward. If you have some issue that affects your functioning today why not do something to move past it? Once you get past it you will be ready to grow without having that issue holding you back in any way. Here's how you can get started working on putting the past behind you.
1. Think of something that happened to you that still affects you today.
2. Acknowledge that it exists.
3. Write down how it affects you in your present life.
4. How would your life be different if this issue were not in the picture?
5. What are you willing to do to move beyond the issue?
Your answers to these ideas will help you create a starting point so that you can create success in your life without the the past weighing you down. Plus, you'll just be happier.
Take care,
Guy
Life Coach
Monday, June 15, 2009
Sunday, June 7, 2009
Dream Big
If you've ever wanted to achieve something you've probably noticed that you get the results that you work on. If you have a small goal you tend to work toward that, if you have a larger vision you tend to move toward it.
A great way to accomplish almost anything is to start with a dream, a specific thing you would like to see happen or that excites you. The dream will guide all the actions to follow. Think about the following questions as you pursue your dream.
1. What would I love to do, what is my dream?
2. What are the reasons this dream is important to me?
3. What small action can I take today to make my dream come true?
If you dream big you are constantly moving toward expansive and exciting horizons. It doesn't mean that all you do are grand, sweeping thing, it just requires that you work toward something that really helps you stretch and grow as a person.
Regards,
Guy
A Successful You
Ever wonder what the difference is between those who are successful and those who aren't. Often the key element is your thoughts. Your thoughts impact everything you do (or don't do) in life. Think about it, if you wake up in the morning thinking it will be a dreary day then how is your day likely to go? What if you arise and tell yourself that great things are going to happen, how would your day look in that case?
Success starts with a mindset and is followed by actions. If you think you are successful then you will do things in that vein. Think about the following questions as you begin to add to your success.
1. What are the great things about me?
2. What possibilities lay in store for me today?
3. What have I been successful at before and how did I do it?
4. What do I want to be successful at today?
5. What will I do today to reach for that success?
As you begin thinking positively remember to take time for yourself and treat yourself well. Do things you enjoy and incorporate them into all aspects of your life. Most of all, believe in yourself and your amazing success.
Regards,
Guy
Life Coach
Success starts with a mindset and is followed by actions. If you think you are successful then you will do things in that vein. Think about the following questions as you begin to add to your success.
1. What are the great things about me?
2. What possibilities lay in store for me today?
3. What have I been successful at before and how did I do it?
4. What do I want to be successful at today?
5. What will I do today to reach for that success?
As you begin thinking positively remember to take time for yourself and treat yourself well. Do things you enjoy and incorporate them into all aspects of your life. Most of all, believe in yourself and your amazing success.
Regards,
Guy
Life Coach
Monday, June 1, 2009
Empathy Helps Build Better Relationships
It's easy to become so focused on our own experience that we forget that other people exist. In relationships, walking in someone else's shoes is a great approach to really understanding other people and helps us build empathy for others. Empathy is the ability to understand someone else's experience and point of view.
People often ask me why it is that someone does such and such or this and that. I suggest that we can figure out what people are going through and understand them much better if we just put ourselves in their situation. In this way, we can learn about them without projecting our own needs and opinions on them. Try a few of the following things to increase your empathic ability:
1. Listen actively without talking.
2. Put yourself in that person's situation and imagine you are going through the same thing.
3. Ask questions that allow the person to tell you more about themselves instead of yes and no questions.
4. Keep in mind that what you are hearing isn't about you; it's about them.
5. Try to accept anything the person says as simply their reality rather than something you have to react to.
Try these a few times over a period of time. Empathy is about really understanding that there are other valid points of view in the world. Those perspectives may not be ours but they mean as much to that person as our worldview does to us. Once you can connect with someone else's reality, you're own your way to really understanding other people and showing them that you respect where they are coming from.
Take care,
Guy
Life Coach
People often ask me why it is that someone does such and such or this and that. I suggest that we can figure out what people are going through and understand them much better if we just put ourselves in their situation. In this way, we can learn about them without projecting our own needs and opinions on them. Try a few of the following things to increase your empathic ability:
1. Listen actively without talking.
2. Put yourself in that person's situation and imagine you are going through the same thing.
3. Ask questions that allow the person to tell you more about themselves instead of yes and no questions.
4. Keep in mind that what you are hearing isn't about you; it's about them.
5. Try to accept anything the person says as simply their reality rather than something you have to react to.
Try these a few times over a period of time. Empathy is about really understanding that there are other valid points of view in the world. Those perspectives may not be ours but they mean as much to that person as our worldview does to us. Once you can connect with someone else's reality, you're own your way to really understanding other people and showing them that you respect where they are coming from.
Take care,
Guy
Life Coach
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