A Different Perspective to Improve Relationships

It's easy to focus exclusively on our own perspective in relationships. We tend to think of our relationship issues in terms we are familiar with and this often means we keep repeating the same patterns and acting the same way we always have. This works well if we get great results but what happens if our behaviors always lead to less than satisfactory relationships.

We all know people who can never quite resolve differences with someone else and we watch them repeat the same pattern over and over. I've noticed that it is helpful to let in some new information and get a fresh perspective. When we let new information in it's like opening a window in a stuffy room, we can breathe better and think more clearly. Think about some of the following ideas next time you feel stuck in your relationship.

1. Who can I turn to that is not involved in my situation and can give me impartial advice?
2. Am I willing to let an outside person offer me advice?
3. How open am I to talking about personal issues with an outside person?
4. How open am I to doing the work necessary to move in a different direction?
5. What actions will I commit to doing?

Think about these questions and keep in mind that none of us has all the answers but we all have the ability to acquire new information if we are open enough. Let some air in, enjoy a fresh perspective and start moving in a new direction.

Take care,

Guy
Life Coach Reno

Increase Your Self-Esteem

People frequently ask me how they can boost their self-esteem, especially when they're feeling down. Building ourselves up is a lifelong and continuing process. There are no set rules on how we should feel on any given day but there are some things that can help us boost how we feel about ourselves. The great thing about self-esteem is that you can increase it at any time. All it takes is some conscious action. Here are some ideas to help you get started.

• Do things you love doing.
• Celebrate your successes.
• Focus on positive things.
• Associate with people that support you.
• Listen to your inner voice.
• Keep moving forward even when it seems difficult.
• Take small steps but always keep stepping.
• Develop goals you are working toward.
• Do nice things for yourself that don't cost money.
• Look in the mirror and say positive things to yourself.

Building self esteem is a process of continuing to support and celebrate ourselves. It doesn't come all at once or even stay constant but we can make sure it is strong by staying active and continuing to move forward. There will always be negative things that come along but if you work on increasing your self-esteem, you will find that you can weather any storm.

Take care,

Guy
Life Coach Reno