Most of us say that we're good listeners. Let me give you some ideas of what good listeners do so you can see how you're doing. Good listeners do many of the following things:
1. Don't talk.
2. Nod and prompt the other person to say more.
3. Ask open ended questions that don't have yes or no answers.
4. Lean forward and look interested.
5. Don't talk.
How many of these do you do? Really listening means listening for meaning. We all understand words but do we really understand what the other person is feeling. Pay attention to what the other person looks like when they talk. Do they look upset, do they look confused? Ask questions that help the other person talk more.
If you try some of these you might find you learn a lot about the other person. I also encourage people I coach to try conversations where they don't talk at all and just nod. It's amazing what we can learn when we don't talk.
Take care,
Guy
Life Coach in Reno
Monday, January 29, 2007
Yikes! Conflict
Some of us love conflict and some of us run screaming from it. Yet conflict can signal that something very important is happening and that we need to pay attention. Conflict is also a great opportunity to learn about each other and fix things for the better. Try these tips next time you have and issue with your significant other:
1. Name the problem (what is it).
2. Each of you describe how you see the problem.
3. Come up with a few ways to fix the problem.
4. Agree and choose one solution.
5. Get an outside person involved if you can't decide on a solution.
I've found that if two people just sit down and agree to talk (respectfully and without shouting) they can resolve even the most complex problem. It's wonderful to see two people come to an agreement and figure out a way to resolve a nagging issue. It's almost like a weight has been lifted off their back.
Take care,
Guy
Life Coach Reno
1. Name the problem (what is it).
2. Each of you describe how you see the problem.
3. Come up with a few ways to fix the problem.
4. Agree and choose one solution.
5. Get an outside person involved if you can't decide on a solution.
I've found that if two people just sit down and agree to talk (respectfully and without shouting) they can resolve even the most complex problem. It's wonderful to see two people come to an agreement and figure out a way to resolve a nagging issue. It's almost like a weight has been lifted off their back.
Take care,
Guy
Life Coach Reno
Getting Stuck in a Pattern
It's really normal to get stuck in a pattern, even if it's negative. We become accustomed to the pattern to the point where it becomes normal. We take it for granted and just live with it.
For many people the key to getting unstuck is to do something differently. If we have had a certain kind of results in a relationship, doing something different has the inevitable result of changing the situation. But there is one caveat, you have to do it consistently over time until the new behavior takes root.
Try taking some part of your life and consciously doing something differently. Do it over time until it becomes your new "normal." Lather, rinse and repeat. This approach can be applied to any number of issues. Keep it simple and do one at a time.
Take care,
Guy
Life Coach Reno
For many people the key to getting unstuck is to do something differently. If we have had a certain kind of results in a relationship, doing something different has the inevitable result of changing the situation. But there is one caveat, you have to do it consistently over time until the new behavior takes root.
Try taking some part of your life and consciously doing something differently. Do it over time until it becomes your new "normal." Lather, rinse and repeat. This approach can be applied to any number of issues. Keep it simple and do one at a time.
Take care,
Guy
Life Coach Reno
The Joys of Letting Go
Have you ever kept doing something even though you know it doesn't work? Perhaps you keep enabling a negative behavior in yourself or someone else. This is natural because we tend to be most comfortable with what we know. Next time you find yourself hanging on to this negative thing try something new and let it go.
The act of consciously letting go and moving on helps us heal and think of new perspectives. People who let go of the monkey on their back suddenly find they can walk taller and more comfortably. We can take a breath and see our issues for what they really are; things that we can actually deal with. When we give negative behaviors less importance they have a way of going away.
Try it sometime. Everyone deserves to feel unburdened.
Take care,
Guy
Life Coach in Reno
The act of consciously letting go and moving on helps us heal and think of new perspectives. People who let go of the monkey on their back suddenly find they can walk taller and more comfortably. We can take a breath and see our issues for what they really are; things that we can actually deal with. When we give negative behaviors less importance they have a way of going away.
Try it sometime. Everyone deserves to feel unburdened.
Take care,
Guy
Life Coach in Reno
Sunday, January 28, 2007
Welcome to Life Coach in Reno
I'm pleased to inaugurate this blog to reach out to people looking for a life coach in Reno. I want to create a forum where you may access accurate information about how to succeed in life and share your thoughts with other individuals.
I've been working with people and helping them transform their lives for many years. I truly enjoy the process of watching someone find their true passion and make it a reality.
I hope this blog will help you take action to pursue your goals and dreams.
Take care,
Guy
Life Coach in Reno
I've been working with people and helping them transform their lives for many years. I truly enjoy the process of watching someone find their true passion and make it a reality.
I hope this blog will help you take action to pursue your goals and dreams.
Take care,
Guy
Life Coach in Reno
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